What can be more fun than to ask the people in your life what their most joyful moment was today? It reminds them of happy moments and lets you discover more about their personal delights. My husband and I have a small note on our nightstand reminding us to share with each other at night – “What was your most favorite moment today?”. It is a very simple and innocent practice. You might think it does not add much, but you might be surprised about the power of doing this for a week or more. It adds joy, tenderness, and connection to the moments before we go to sleep. We get to know each other better, celebrate what was good and drift of to sleep with a happy thought. We probably all need more celebration and noticing the good these days with all that is going on in the post-COVID (or still in the middle of COVID?) world.
It is a simple practice. I like to invite my clients to do this as an experiment for a week or month during 3rd life. During a time when you are in charge of your happiness, this is a great way to start a mental or written collection of what type of experiences adds the most to your days. As you note your favorite moment of the day, over time, you will naturally do more of these things. It just happens. And that is exactly what we want, more of the little things that delight us.
It is a curious thing that with all the bigger things we might be doing -volunteering, writing, reaching out to loved ones – how the very simple things still make your favorite moment list. I remember one full day that had so many things I loved and savored. My very winning moment was watching the robin in our back yard bird house feeding their chirping nest of just-hatched babies.. Such a small and tender joy I felt there. I related to the parents working so hard to love and take care of their offspring. I enjoyed the rising chirp choir the moment the mama or papa bird landed on the little round opening with something scrumptious for a little bird in his or her beak.
We do not need much to be happy sometimes. Just a moment of something that touches us deeply.
Want to try this gentle practice? Then grab an index card or a piece of paper right now and write this question: What was my very favorite moment today? Then go to your nightstand right now and place it where you will see it tonight as you go to bed.
If you have a partner, consider asking your partner this question. If you do not have a partner, text your best friend or child or someone else you like and trust and enjoy being close with. Then be touched and delighted with the small and gentle joys of life that delight you and the people you love..
3rd life is such a beautiful time in life to go for all that you want. It is a time to get to know yourself deeply and in a new way. We can learn to be in the world in a fuller and deeper way by paying attention to the things that trigger gratefulness and joy. Or we can notice the things that make us feel stressed and unhappy and then take steps to alleviate the stress. In my coach training, I learned that eradicating negative experiences is a more successful driver for behavior change. I sometimes wonder if this is true for 3rd life. Maybe this is a time where we can notice and celebrate the tender moments of joy, celebrate them, and allow them to become the building blocks of a better day tomorrow. Who knows? You decide.
Thank you for reading my blog. Finding strategies for adding contentment and joy and forevermore satisfaction to your 3rd life is what I am all about. I am obsessed with and am having a blast being on the lookout discovering the best strategies and sharing them with you. Stay tuned for more ways to make the rest of your life the best of your life, yet.
“Everyone chases after happiness, not noticing that happiness is right at their heels.”